Ali Matteini

a life creative

I Wonder

This is a time of wonder, they tell me. This age. Not quite young and not quite old.

In this age, at this time, I wonder at the heart and just how much a heart can be shattered and how you still keep breathing. How one person can leave another person in the rain but have them suffer just as much shit rained on them from their past.

How do you keep surging on? How do you even survive?

I am not proud of events that have taken place in my past, how I have handled myself as a human being. I’ve kept myself muted, unable to say no to the wrong people, unable for some reason to speak up, to shout out a big loud no. Empathy for the self non existent. Empathy for the wrong folk at 100%.

Now I feel at a crossroads, still. I’m ever here, at this crossroad, wondering when the next outburst will be, wondering how the rains of the past will be falling today, or tomorrow. All shit, in any case. Sideways rain today. I left before I could lash out and hurt the wrong person again. And hurt I did. I stand at a grand 165cm tall and I “boxed” a 182cm broad-shouldered guy. The gyrating motions and jeers at my poor choices. This is where my honesty left me.

I am filled with fury, channelled toward the wrong human being, however. I should have lined up all those arseholes from my past, shooting range style, cut them all to pieces. Cut them down, cut them out. I thought I had, but they keep popping right on up. Carnival style.

And the shit rain keeps falling and the shit river keeps rising. Though I live now with a fire of love and a scorched heart, I’m going to drown in all my wrongs, daily, one by one as they’re drawn like teeth out of my soul, then dissected. It’s poisonous.

I am not used to this. Jealousy. Not mine. I’m not used to being loved so fiercely and fully. I’m not used to being loved, full-stop. I searched for love, finding disappointment or sex, or both, lying to myself. Cheating myself out of a good and real life.

I don’t know how to conduct myself anymore. All things in life call for an energy and honesty. Honest I have been, only to be called liar liar…the energy, I have none of that any longer. I am the werewolf bride stripped bare, flayed and naked, called schlampa and shit. Helping out the patriarchy. Many of we women can say the same: we stand up fight the patriarchy and we’re pushed back down. We slide back, because it’s just too damned hard, and we’re called out on that. It’s a fight, always, always a fight.

This wondrous time is short and it’s running out. In the last month I’ve faced more than my share of 42 years of lying and hiding and running.

Time is running out. Love should not be pain. I’m tired of trying to make myself heard above the noise dressed up as love.

I’m tired of being told who I should be and how dreadfully wrong and shit I’ve been.

Time to take that shower in clean water.

Time now for me.

2 comments on “I Wonder

  1. Angela Highstead
    November 2, 2019

    Dear Ali, I only started to rise above my own ‘crap’ when at 50yrs I accepted help and my GP referred me to two excellent psychotherapists not just cognitive psychologists. And even now at 71yrs I’m off to a clinical psychologist to try and learn some boundaries around what I call compassion/empathy fatigue.

    There is no shame in accepting help. I couldn’t have joined the dots of inherent nature and childhood stuff without the help of a couple of wonderful therapists. It took me years to get my head around some ‘stuff’ and years to forgive myself for some ‘stuff’ from the past I couldn’t change. But I did eventually.

    Lots of love and a hug from here ‘far, far away,
    Angela xxx

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  2. kimcannon16000days
    November 2, 2019

    Love and light and space and hope and healing. 💕💕

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